The Cult Around the Corner is a handbook on dealing with others people’s religious choices. It is dedicated to bringing reason, understanding and open communication to an often explosive subject: the involvement of oneself, a friend or loved one in a group that might be called a “cult”. Based on thousands of calls to a “cult” hotline, the book provides practical advice on “what to do when someone you love joins a group you think you hate.” Advice that includes: calm down, take a deep breath, think it through, do not panic and find out more before you act.
If someone you love has joined a religious "cult" or such a group has moved into your neighborhood or they are becoming active in your community or any similar situation occurs then this book is where you should start when wondering what to do. It is not an exposition about the beliefs of various religious groups nor what defines a cult from a religion or any such thing. Instead it deals with an all too common problem, people basing their understanding of a group on prejudiced things they have heard, gossip or similar information. It deals with the alienation that often follows when parents and friends don't understand why a person joins a different religious group. It also deals with how to recover that communication and recover the relationship.
This is a sensible guidebook for anyone who is concerned about the religious choices of others. Written out of the experience of helping thousands of concerned parents, friends, neighbors, etc., this book explains how to address the "problem" of a loved one joining a religion one doesn't fully understand.
Logically, the first recommendation is to "calm down" so one can be effective in addressing the situation. Then a range of choices are given... advice on actual steps one can take to restore or improve communication, and why that is important, pitfalls to avoid in these situations (like deprogrammers), how to communicate your concerns to your loved one without alienating him or trampling on his rights, etc.
Surprisingly enough, the book gives good advice for parents about how to prepare one's child for the myriad of religious choices out there! Very useful for just about any parent. Jane James
IS HATE EVER NOT DANGEROUS?
“Hate” doesn’t just happen—it is created. Find out how, and what you can do to stop hate and all the collateral damage it causes. Hate crimes, hate speech, hate groups, discussions that flare into screaming matches, deep-seated animosities used to justify bullying, verbal abuse, discrimination – even violence and killing ... all of these are obvious; they’re out there for all to see. But what lurks unseen below the surface?
What creates these things? How is it possible to boil someone’s blood and enrage the soul? Creating Hate – How It Is Done, How to Destroy It presents a solid theory about what causes hatred and how hate multiplies. The writing is succinct, the ideas presented practical. Supplying tools for understanding what causes hatred and how to keep the peace. From parents to coaches, from school principals to corporate CEOs . . . this book is a valuable tool for getting along in life
Thanks for visiting my site. This website has been created to provide a place for you to contact me and to promote my books, “Creating Hate, How It Is Done, How to Destroy It”
But more than that, this site (and my blog entries), are here to provide helpful ideas and information as well as access to many valuable resources. Resources to help you fight against hate, bigotry, racism, ignorance, small-mindedness, stupidity and just plain laziness. (Too lazy to find out more and get the facts, ma’am.) You’ll find links to (what I think are) some of the best resources on religious freedom, human rights, anti-bullying and much more. Also, links to groups that might help you if you are in a situation where you (or someone you know) is fighting a battle against fixed ideas, false or incomplete information, anything that is resulting in lessening of one’s basic human rights and needs help. You’ll also find articles and links to things I think are really worth knowing and should get more coverage, in a world where mass media too often sensationalizes the bad and pays scant attention to the good. (Nobel Peace Prize winners usually get a page or two, not much more.) Please take a look around, let me know about resources that should be added as links, and of course read my anti-hate book, tell others to read it and ask your local librarian to stock it. I hope you find things here that are interesting, enlightening and hopefully even amusing. Your suggestions about additional links, topics to add to the blog entries, or any other ideas would be greatly appreciated.
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“This little book teaches a big lesson in waking us up so we become aware of when we are being manipulated by subtle hate and the antidotes to succumbing to it.”
Kay Lindahl, Author “The Sacred Art of Listening”
… anyone who has been feeling the tension of these topics, either by way of the media's coverage of events across the country and world, or localized situations, would truly find this handbook useful to help sort through feelings or emotions. The book also offers suggested approaches to some situations that I'm sure nearly any reader can sympathize with.
If ever there was a time when the contents of this book were mandatory to read that time is now. The world festers with religious wars, classroom shootings, terrorism, religious prejudice, racial intolerance, the growing schism between the haves and the have-nots. The kernels behind this disruption of humanistic behavior is hate and Omeara carefully show us how hate is born and how it is used and then offers insights on perceiving the beginnings of hate and how to reverse those impulses.